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I Hate Being a Caregiver And That Doesn't Make Me a Bad Person
I Hate Being a Caregiver And That Doesn't Make Me a Bad Person
After 30 years of caregiving starting at age 11, here's the truth nobody tells you: I hate being a caregiver. And that doesn't make me a bad person. This is... Read more...
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Finally... Someone Made Music For US | Day1Father
After 30 years as a caregiver, I finally created what we actually need: music that tells the truth. No toxic positivity. No inspiration porn. Just raw lyrics from someone who... Read more...
7 Caregiver Burnout Signs Nobody Talks About
7 Caregiver Burnout Signs Nobody Talks About
If you're reading this at 4:47 AM, you already know you're burnt out. This is the truth about caregiver burnout signs that 30 years taught me. Not the "practice self... Read more...
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"You're So Strong = You're So Alone: A Caregiver Translation Guide"
I've been a caregiver for 30 years. In three decades, I've heard every version of caregiver platitudes. The well-meaning comments. The inspirational garbage. The toxic positivity disguised as support. I've... Read more...
Dark blue blog cover with white text reading "Things My Mom Never Told Me" - blog post about what dialysis patients hide from caregivers over 15 years
Things my mom never told me about dialysis (until I was older)
I was 11 when my mom started dialysis. For 15 years, she hid how much it hurt. The pain, the fear, the shame of being a burden. She told me... Read more...
Black background with white bold text reading "I yelled at the person I'm caring for" - blog post about caregiver guilt after setting boundaries and yelling back
I Yelled at the Person I'm Caring For (And Why That Doesn't Make Me a Monster)
If you yelled at the person you're caring for, the guilt is probably eating you alive. Here's the truth: you're not a monster. You're an exhausted human who finally hit... Read more...
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I Think About Quitting Caregiving Every Day (And Why That's Normal)
By Robert, Founder of Day1Father The Thought That Haunts Every Caregiver I was 11 years old the first time I thought about quitting. My father had just left. My mother's... Read more...
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🖕 Screw Moral Injury: When Your Excellence Becomes a Threat
You weren't burned out you were betrayed. When you fixed a client's neglect, the family blamed you. Why? Because your 110% integrity was a threat. We dive into the raw truth... Read more...
Dear Toxic Positivity Society: Shove Your Fake Words and Fix the Respite Care System
Dear Toxic Positivity Society: Shove Your Fake Words and Fix the Respite Care System
Caregivers need systemic respite care, not fake inspirational quotes. Stop the toxic positivity and start fixing the broken respite care system. Real talk. Read more...
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Caregiver Burnout: When Every Day Feels Like the Same Exhausting Repeat
For exhausted caregivers feeling overwhelmed and desperate for relief. Real talk about caregiver burnout without toxic positivity. You are not alone. Read more...
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Caregiving Stole My Intimacy and I Want It Back
Caregiving doesn’t just take time it takes space.Emotional space. Physical space. The kind of space where intimacy used to live. And when that space disappears, it’s easy to feel like... Read more...
Stop Telling Caregivers They’re Blessed: A Manifesto Against Toxic Positivity
Stop Telling Caregivers They’re Blessed: A Manifesto Against Toxic Positivity
Every Sunday morning, I rode the church van with my mom. Every Saturday night before that, she cried. Pain so deep she begged God to take her. I was 11... Read more...