I don’t know who needs to hear this, but caregiving can erase intimacy. Not just sex connection. Closeness. The feeling of being wanted.

You go from partner to nurse. From lover to logistics manager. You stop being touched unless someone needs help getting up. You stop being seen unless someone’s in crisis.

And after a while, you start to wonder if that part of you is gone for good. If you’ll ever be held again without urgency. If anyone will ever look at you like you’re more than the person who holds everything together.

This sucks, and you’re allowed to say it. You’re allowed to miss closeness. To miss being wanted. To miss the version of yourself that used to feel like more than a caregiver.

You’re not weak for wanting more. You’re not selfish for missing intimacy.

Caregiving doesn’t just take time it takes space. Emotional space. Physical space. The kind of space where intimacy used to live.

And when that space disappears, it’s easy to feel like you disappeared with it.

But you didn’t. You’re still here. Still human. Still worthy of touch, of connection, of being seen.

You don’t have to be grateful for the sacrifice every second. You don’t have to pretend it doesn’t hurt.

This sucks. And you’re allowed to say it.

So what do we do

• We name it.
• We stop pretending it’s okay.
• We talk about it with partners, with therapists, with each other.
• We carve out five minutes of connection, even if it’s just eye contact.
• We ask for touch that isn’t task-based.
• We remind ourselves we are still worthy.

And we build spaces where this truth is allowed to exist.

Day1Father Mission

Fighting toxic positivity in caregiving, one honest conversation at a time.

Day1Father exists for the caregivers who are exhausted, breaking, and tired of being told they’re “blessed” when they’re actually drowning. We’re the anti-inspiration-porn brand that says the quiet part out loud.

What We Stand For

Raw Truth Over Empty Platitudes

No “God only gives you what you can handle.” No “you’re so strong.” No “everything happens for a reason.” Just honest validation for people living the hardest moments of their lives.

Visibility for the Invisible

Caregivers carry the weight of the world while everyone else looks away. We see you. We validate your exhaustion. We acknowledge that wanting to quit doesn’t make you weak it makes you human.

Your Story Is Our Story

Started by someone who became a caregiver at 11, riding two buses to dialysis, cutting grass for groceries, dropping his grandma and learning that mistakes don’t define you. Every product, every post, every word comes from lived experience, not corporate marketing.

Anti-Toxic Positivity

We reject the narrative that suffering is a blessing. We call out the people who say “I don’t know how you do it” and then walk away without helping. We create space for caregivers to feel guilty, exhausted, and human without shame.